Tonight I saw the movie trailer for Gayle Forman's book "If I Stay." Now that's just great. Another YA novel I HAVE to add to my TBR list!!! I have rarely read YA in the past but it all started with Harry Potter, then Twilight, then the Lunar Chronicles...... I have to admit there are a lot of impressive YA novels out there! My children are all young adults (in their twenties) and here I am. Is this what it's like to have a midlife crisis?
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Monday, July 21, 2014
Conquering Shame and Codependency
8 Steps to Freeing the True You
Author: Darlene Lancer
Published: July 2014
Publisher: Hazelden Publishing
Source: A complimentary copy was provided by TLC Book Tours and the publisher in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.
Codependency Expert Uncovers Fundamental Causes and Effects of Shame and a
Simple Path to a Healthier Life
Shame is an emotion that can be buried in a person’s psyche so deep that one does not realize how much he is affected by it. From the publisher that popularized the topics of shame and codependency with such publications as Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection and Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More, Hazelden Publishing releases CONQUERING SHAME AND CODEPENDENCY: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You (Hazelden Publishing; July 14; $14.95), by nationally-recognized author, codependency expert and family therapist, Darlene Lancer. This essential guide explores the powerful emotion of shame, what can happen if it is not addressed, and provides practical advice on how to break deep-rooted patterns.
In the book, Lancer begins by explaining the difference between guilt and shame: “Guilt results from violating rules or moral precepts, while shame emanates from breaching accepted group norms. We’re guilty if we do something bad. With shame, we believe that we ourselves are bad or inadequate in some way.” Understanding these definitions shows how incredibly deep and profound feelings of shame can be, and as a result, how difficult it can be to change how you feel about yourself.
She then delves into the link between shame and codependency, explaining how they prevent us from living life as our “true selves”. As the result of a combination of personality, parenting, and life experience, we may develop an “inner critic” who is constantly questioning our motives and putting us down for our actions. We become victims of our own negativity which then leads to codependency, which is the disease of a lost self where one organizes his or her thinking and behavior around another person, process, or substance. Before we know it we may be engaged in abusive or inappropriate relationships. For example, we may be working in a career we felt we “had” to take on in order to please a parent. We may be living as if we were someone else, unable to make our own decisions out of fear of hurtful repercussions left over from living with an abusive partner. These and other similar situations can cause us to spiral down into an unhealthy state such as severe anxiety or depression, substance abuse, or other serious issues.
In CONQUERING SHAME AND CODEPENDENCY Lancer outlines 8 Steps that will help us develop more healthy attitudes about ourselves:
- Find Your True Self
- Uncover Your Shame
- Find Your Shame’s Roots
- Disarm Your Shame
- Confront Your Shame
- Share Your Shame
- Build Your Self-Esteem
- Love Yourself
By working through these steps you will be able to better identify and understand the root source of negative feelings and what course of action to take in order to let it go and free yourself to a life confident in being your true self. Drawing on thirty years of experience as a therapist, Lancer has made an immense contribution by writing CONQUERING SHAME AND CODEPENDENCY. For anyone who has been in therapy or has never knocked on a Ph.D.’s door, this book will break down a wall and open an entirely new path for you to begin living a true and authentic life.
Classmates make fun, a sibling belittles, a parent scorns, a teacher chastises. All part of growing up or can be. Is there one among us who hasn't at some point in our lives felt ashamed or embarrassed? Has it altered how we see ourselves...our self-esteem?
To begin, author and therapist Darlene Lancer explores how shame happens and the types of shame: existential, situational, class, and narcissistic. Using tables, the author shows the difference between guilt and shame and how guilt can be healthy while shame leads to negative self-image.
Once shame, its sources and effects have been identified, the reader is given 8 steps to freedom. These steps are intended to help the reader overcome feelings of shame and learn self-love. With exercises to help accomplish this last and final goal; the reader will be empowered to make positive changes in their lives.
Conquering Shame and Codependency is written in easy to understand terms, with clearly defined segments so you can easily select what applies. From an author who works as a family therapist and lectures about self esteem, co-dependency and addictions; this reference guide makes available to a wide audience what she teaches in smaller environments. Teachers, family therapists. and school counsellors will find this a good reference in identifying factors and solutions for those they may be concerned with assisting; and for anyone who has experienced the negative effects shame can produce, this book is recommended reading.
Note: this reviewer is not a trained therapist. The thoughts I've shared here are my opinion in relation to how I and how I feel others may respond to Conquering Shame and Codependency.
Meet the Author:
About Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, is a licensed family therapist with over twenty years of experience working with individuals and couples. She regularly lectures on self-esteem, codependency, and addiction. Author ofCodependency for Dummies and 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, she has also published numerous articles.
Friday, July 18, 2014
Before I Go to Sleep
Author: S.J. Watson
Published: June 2011
Publisher: Harper Collins
Edition: Trade paperback
Author: S.J. Watson
Published: June 2011
Publisher: Harper Collins
Edition: Trade paperback
'As I sleep, my mind will erase everything I did today. I will wake up tomorrow as I did this morning. Thinking I'm still a child. Thinking I have a whole lifetime of choice ahead of me...'
Memories define us. So what if you lost yours every time you went to sleep? Your name, your identity, your past, even the people you love — all forgotten overnight. And the one person you trust may only be telling you half the story.
Welcome to Christine's life. (from Goodreads)
From the opening paragraph, S.J. Watson had me hooked. "The bedroom is strange. Unfamiliar. I don't know where I am, how I came to be here. I don't know how I'm going to get home."
Before I Go to Sleep is the thrilling, can't put down suspenseful novel of a woman who can't remember things day to day because of an accident she was in years earlier. Each morning she wakes up not knowing where she is or who she's in bed with. The mirror shows a significantly older woman than the one she remembers herself to be. She cannot form new memories.
Daily her doctor calls to remind Christine to get her journal from the closet and to read it. At day's end, she writes about her day and the journal, though it's not been written in for very long, slowly begins to reveal certain truths about her life. The curious thing, which really keeps you reading to know why, is at the very beginning of the journal she has written "Don't trust Ben."
Although I am itching to tell more, I don't want to ruin the story for you. Cleverly plotted and written; it's enough to say it's a real page-turner that I hated to put down! Breaks were not long enough and days too short, as I squeezed in reading time for this thriller!! I can't wait for the movie! Wowza!!!
Warning for sensitive viewers: some language and sexual references.
|bench designed by Mandi Pope|
Saturday July 26/14, meet "Poirot" as the Agatha Christie notable bookbench Hercule Poirot and Greenshore Folly Bench is revealed to the public at Bloomsbury Square Gardens (London, England).
The artist Mandi Pope recreated the bench art from the cover of Christie's novella Hercule Poirot and the Greenshore Folly, originally designed by Tom Adams.
It's too pretty to sit upon, don't you think?
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
Friday, July 11, 2014
It's the Year of the Book to Movies Adaptations!! Here's Unbroken, coming this Christmas to theatres.
The movie is an adaptation of "Unbroken" the biography of Louis Zamperini, a rebel child who turned his life around and became an Olympian athlete. Louis later fought in World War II and was captured and kept in a prisoner of war camp. This is the story of a man who wouldn't be broken.
Louis Zamperini passed away July 2/14 at the age of 97.
Film directed by Angelina Jolie
Thursday, July 10, 2014
See my review of the memoir "Wild" here: http://shirley-mybookshelf.blogspot.ca/2013/08/found-in-wild-review-of-wild-by-cheryl.html
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Monday, July 7, 2014
Sunday, July 6, 2014
There are some creative and remarkable ideas for book inspired home decor for virtually every room of the house.
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How would one make a book tub waterproof/watertight so you might actually soak in literature?
For the book obsessed, you know who you are (myself included), these examples of decor are truly inspirational. Which would you like best for your home? Personally, I would choose the table and chairs for the dining area.